The dilemma...we face it every time we write a letter, send an email or talk on the phone. What does he/she want to hear? How do you keep the topics uplifting so we aren't always crying or sad? Should I tell him the kids are acting up; that I wake up in the middle of the night from terrible nightmares; that sometimes even the littlest of things seem so big; that looking at the Christmas tree brings me to tears? What about the big things...if we are facing a health scare; a job loss or whatever other major thing that can happen in a period of a year. What about the days that are great...like watching the kids help their Uncle Bob put up Christmas lights, Tiffany riding the lighted reindeer around the yard while Bob throws a baseball tied to a string of lights in an attempt to get them over the tree in our front yard. Watching Logan read his letter from Santa (thank you Aunt Carrie) or all of the other things that happen in a day that make us smile.
I realized that I spend too much time worrying about what I should and shouldn't talk about instead of enjoying a conversation and filling my husband in on what is going on at the homefront. I've heard advice from many sources saying not to tell our family members anything that will worry them but don't tell them too many things that sound like you are having too much fun because they aren't here to be a part of it. Then, I received some wonderful advice....don't change a thing...talk about things just as you do when you are together. Write about even the smallest of things so our loved ones can feel as though they are right here with us. Share the mundane, the silly, the scary, and the wonderful...share EVERYTHING.
And, my husband would agree with this advice. So the next time you pick up a pen, start to type an email or answer the phone remember - they are right here with you. They want to hear it all.
Much love,
Household Six
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